Self-abandonment does it affect your ability to receive love

If you love with all your heart, you put unconditional pure love and intention out there with the hope of it reaching a soul mate, but they are not open and willing to accepting that love, can love still exist? 

It seems that any chance of a connection appears limited or blocked in someway by the unacceptance of love , not matter how much is offered. Weather this be a conscious or subconscious choice, one cannot create love if one does not first accept it.  If this is true can we then suggest that love must come first from the self? 

Take the following extract on self-abandonment written by  Dr. Margaret Paul

When we are disconnected from ourselves — from who we really are and from our feelings — and when we are not filling ourselves with love through our spiritual connection, we create a black hole within. The black hole we’ve created through our self-abandonment becomes like a vacuum, trying to pull love from others. This neediness tends to push people away, so we end up feeling even more unloved.

If you feel alone, empty, anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, jealous, sad, fearful, guilty or shamed, you are likely abandoning yourself.

What can someone feeling like this or experiencing this do to gain new insights, to remind yourself of the things you had forgotten how do you reclaim yourself?  Perhaps revisit old places and discover something you hadn’t previously noticed, take a fresh look on everything that you have in your life, find new ways to experience joy, spend time to discover who you are through self-reflection. Whatever it is, I believe this process of discovery is one that requires you to open not just your mind but your heart.

What is love .......

The following explanation from psychology today talks about what love is and what it isn't.

Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, agenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.

Is this why we can still love someone who has caused us pain, or someone who behaves in ways that are contrary to our personal morals and beliefs? Perhaps this is why we might find solace in telling ourselves “don’t hate the person, hate the behavior”. Is it because love is actually separate to behaviour….. and has an existence of its own. Perhaps this is why sometimes it doesn’t matter what happens to us, when we have a connection that love knows under its own law, maybe we bound by it....maybe love doesn’t happen to us …but for us. 

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